Remember when you were newly married? Loving your bridegroom so much that you would follow him through a desert into uncharted territory? Just being with your spouse was satisfying enough because the love was so fresh and so sweet!
My mom has told me numerous times, "I loved your dad so much when we were first married that I would have been happy if our home was a tent. I was willing to follow him anywhere." Her young, hopeful love filled her heart. Her devotion as a young bride seemed unshakable.
Yet, as the years went on, the harshness of life chipped away at my parents' marriage. Unchecked and unrepented sin ravaged both of their hearts. The desert that once represented hopeful adventure was now a harsh reality of intense heat and dehydration. Devotion waned. Love was suffocated. Though my parents never officially divorced, they were separated for twenty years when my father died suddenly of a heart attack in 1998.
When we first make promises to our spouses through our wedding vows at our marriage ceremony, they often are just words spoken through giggles, smiles and joyful tears on a very exciting day. The depths of the commitments we make are only realized as the months and years go by. For better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health. These statuses define themselves over time. Our devotion, our love and our vows of commitment are tested in the worse, the poorer and the sickness.
Commenting on Jeremiah 2:2, Blackaby writes this:
A vibrant relationship with the Lord, our First Love, must be our first priority in our lives and marriages. Our trust and confidence rests in Him alone. He is our strength, our sustenance and our fruit-bearer. Soak in these truths:
Expectant love bubbles over in the heart of a newlywed. Devotion is unashamedly expressed. Are you lovingly devoted like a new spouse or has your heart grown cold and unresponsive in your marriage? Return to your First Love. Humble your heart before Him and ask Him and your spouse for forgiveness. Turn and repent. Read God's Word daily. Worship Him in reverence and in awe. Plant yourself by the stream of living water. Your leaves will always be green, even when the heat comes. The heat will come. The desert will call. But the Giver of Life beckons you to abide and refresh in Him daily. He will restore the intimate fellowship you once had with Him, and He can restore, renew, refresh and revitalize your marriage as well.